Thursday, August 22, 2019

Big Deal

Everyone thinks that every damn thing is a big deal

I'm not sure what has happened. No , this is not a column about the good old days and how everything was better way back when. But here is something that I have noticed lately: Everyone makes a big deal out of everything. 

Look on Instagram. Oh it's leg day! Don't skip leg day! Leg day leg day. Gimme a  break. Do you think that Kirk Karwoski was like, OK guys, its leg day and it's gonna be painful but I'm going through with it anyway!? You're not crossing the Alps, you are doing some squats and lunges or something. People have been doing that forever and not even talking about it. And honestly, I don’t believe that anyone really cares anyway. 

It's like, just be cool about shit. You had a bad day? Please don't write a post about it with a meme. C’mon man. Act like its no big deal .

Act like almost nothing is a big deal.

It's like college football summer practice. Oh my god, we are going to camp. Last year when I was coaching in college, the players had like 3 practices with no gear, then they put on helmets (no hitting) and then a few days later they put pads on. And the complaining. Oh, I'm in CAMP. Camp is brutal! And remember, there are no two a day practices.  I hate to break the news but when I was in college and at many schools , there were three practices a day in training camp. Nobody made a big deal out of it. And even with today's lax practice schedule, kids still got injured(Here's a theory, quit talking about injuries so much. And maybe the kids won't get hurt so much. It's like when you tell someone to not think about pink elephants. What are they gonna think of?) Probably because of the NFL network always talking about “going to camp” and reporting from every camp, that everyone from little leaguers to college guys think that it's the end of the world, a huge monumental event. It's practice. Go to practice and shut the hell up about it. 

When I worked at universities, everything was a huge deal. Meeting after meeting after meeting talking about nonsense that pertained to nothing. Administrators who just wanted to hear themselves talk. Surveys of our philosophies and if we like each other or some bullshit. Let’s figure out a way to make the athletes softer because we don't want them triggered or to have them uncomfortable or to have to fight through adversity and actually figure things out for themselves. Can I go now? I’d rather be coaching instead of receiving  handouts (that went right in the trash) from someone who never played a down in their lives. Or got punched in the face.

Ya know, if you get punched in the face once in a while, or have ever been punched in the face, you really don't think everything and anything is a big deal. I mean, what's a bigger deal, your latest problem or getting punched in the face? Think that's silly or barbaric? Why don't we have a meeting about it and talk about it ad nauseam. Once you have been punched in the face, your big deal meter will go way down when confronted with what you used to think was a big deal. And another thing, people don't think that the next step is to punch them in the face. Meaning, some folks think that they can say and do whatever they want to someone else without consequences. How about, you say the wrong thing to the wrong person and BAM! Take that for your troubles. You’d be thinking twice about running your mouth. That's a big deal.

I have read where soldiers coming home from war get irritated when they hear people complain about standing in line or if their pumpkin spice latte is not quite right. That's a big deal to those folks, but not to folks that have been getting shot at and living in the's all perspective, isn't it?

When you are young, you think that everything is a big deal. You are in middle school and the girl who you had a crush on gets a boyfriend. The Cowboys lose to the Redskins. You lost your 80 pound football game. You had to come in early from outside to do your homework. And then as you get older, really bad stuff starts to happen to you, relationships end, people get sick, people die. Have someone get sick or die that's really close to you and your perspective changes. Things pale in comparison to those kinds of tragedies.  After that, especially in my case, I stopped caring about pretty much everything except vital stuff in my life. You look at situations through different eyes when bad times happen to you. 

Honestly, I have about three or four things that I give a crap about. After that, I just shrug my shoulders and move on. No big deal.

All About Being a Lifer

What's a Lifer? Someone who isn't in to something for just a day, a month, a's for life. Whether its training or your family or your doesn't matter. You work at it, you build on it, you see the big picture . You don't miss workouts because it means something to you. You are like a Shakespearean actor- no matter what is going on in your life, you block it out when it's time to train. You walk into the weight room and all else disappears. Worry about it later.